That’s right. Another disorder.
Brodsky says this Valentines Day longing hearts everywhere will eagerly anticipate a romantic gift or gesture.
For millions, however, Valentines is the worst day, despite good relationships, leaving them confused, guilty, or mistrustful due to “Relationship OCD.”
Unlike jealousy, ROCD sufferers know their doubts of their partner’s love are irrational, but can’t stop anyway.
They compulsively check on them, call them, or inspect their phone and email history.
Valentines is one of many tests of their partner’s love (“if they really loved me they would…”).
They analyze words, tone of voice, and facial expressions. Eventually they cause the relationship to dissolve, ironically, on Valentines Day.
On the flip side, other ROCD sufferers doubt their own love for their partner.
They test their attraction (“if I really loved them I would never look at another…”) and magnify their partner’s flaws.
They fear a Valentines gift will mislead their partner, and feel guilty they will cheat.
They break up and make up weekly.
Couples therapy makes the problem worse.
Psychologist Steven Brodsky wants star-crossed lovers to know that their hot-and-cold behavior might be a serious anxiety disorder and that exposure therapy can save their relationships.
For more info: http://www.OCDhotline.com or call 212-726-2390.
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