Marriage Quality Impacts Your Health

Healthy couples create an atmosphere of emotional safety 
for each other, which in turn, keeps their minds and 
bodies healthy.


Healthy couples aren't without conflict. In fact, conflict is 
normal in healthy relationships.  


The difference is outstanding marriages have two outstanding 
communicators who respectfully resolve conflict.


Healthy couples are open, honest and deal with issues, even 
difficult ones as they arise. 


They don't involve other people, unless it's a professional, 
and they make their relationship a positive priority.


That keeps the relationship healthy, and benefits their own 
emotional and physical health.


The opposite is detrimental to both, especially when chronic.


When a couple has constant, unrelenting stress --it takes
a toll on their emotional and physical health.


Stress without relief can disturb the body’s internal balance,
which may lead to headaches, stomach upset, high blood pressure 
and even chest pain. 


Stress is also linked to heart disease and cancer, among other 
health problems. 

Cleveland Clinic’s Ted Raddell, Ph.D., says the quality of a 
marriage is important to the quality of overall health. 

“Headaches, stomach issues, certainly the common 
things, muscle tension, but if that persists, you have 
unremitting stress then it affects our immune 
functioning and then we’re more vulnerable to all kinds of 
potential physical problems,” says Raddell. 

One recent study links marital conflict and depression to poor 
digestive health. 

While another study suggests strained relationships may be 
connected to an increased risk for heart disease. 


Dr. Raddell said this mind-body connection is well known among 

He says stress, in general, produces a ‘fight or flight’ 
response which is designed to help in emergencies, but it's
constantly activated it can cause wear and tear 
on the body --both physical and emotional.

Dr. Raddell says the impact on health is greatest when 
relationship stress becomes chronic. 

“The longer the time distrust persists, over the course of 
months versus weeks, is probably where you’re 
more likely to see some of those physical 
symptoms,” he says.


Dr. Raddell encourages couples to seek help sooner rather than 
later if they’re struggling and in distress. 

He says when a spouse 
create an atmosphere 
emotional safety for their partner, 
the nervous system shifts 
“rest and digest" mode 
all body systems 
function optimally.
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More tips on how to have an outstanding marriage below.




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If you want to have an outstanding marriage, you have to be an outstanding communicator.

10 Ways To Improve Communication In Marriage

1. Model respectful listening

Top of the list – take responsibility. Don’t wait for your spouse to make the first move – step up and listen already. Good listeners tend to get listened to in return.

2. Choose to be genuinely interested in what your spouse has to say

Yes, it’s a choice. You say you love her? Then don’t tune her out when the conversation is not about something you like. Make the effort to attend that PTA event together – you might have something to talk about. Read that Jane Austen book she loves so much; watch her favorite HGTV home makeover show with her; walk hand in hand around the art show; show some interest in her friends. Make the choice to be interested.

3. Write your spouse a note that reinforces your message

  • “I’m looking forward to our date on Friday!”
  • “Here are some things I want us to talk to Junior’s teacher about. What do you think?”
  • “Thanks for bringing me lunch yesterday; I love you so much!”
  • “I enjoyed shooting the breeze with you. Let’s meet for coffee and chat some more.”

4. Schedule regular, media-free family mealtimes

This applies to both communication in marriage and the family dynamic. Meals can be communication opportunities par-excellence. They are informal family meetings and workshops where parents both teach manners and model as examples. Plus mealtimes are an awesome ongoing opportunity – with or without children – to keep communication flowing.

5. Keep the television turned off. TV as constant background is

  • An invitation to tune out relationships
  • A strong message about what is important (and unimportant) in a home
  • A distraction that will always suck attention away from one another
  • An excuse to avoid communication

6. Make eye contact when you are talking

Also make good use of touch, responsive and reflective feedback, and body language (smiles, gestures, head tilts, raised eyebrows, nods, etc.) to demonstrate that communication is actually occurring.

7. Do not look at your phone while interacting with your spouse

It sends a clear message of priorities.

8. Avoid surface level or single word responses

When talking with your spouse, it’s too easy to brush off real communication, squash first-order interaction, and signal your spouse that you are not really interested.

9. Designate a central location for all important reminders, dates, and messages.

Maybe a large calendar on the refrigerator – or a bulletin board in the kitchen – or a white-board by the front door.

10. Include your spouse as a Friend in all your social media lists.

No one should get more of your time than your spouse. Include one another as primary contacts, keep one another “in the loop”, send one another messages every day, and act as if you are each other’s best friend. Chances are, you will be.


Outstanding communicators in a healthy marriage translates to great health



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“The secret to a happy marriage is if you can be at peace with someone within four walls, if you are content because the one you love is near to you, either upstairs or downstairs, or in the same room, and you feel that warmth that you don’t find very often, then that is what love is all about.” -Bruce Forsyth


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