How To Stay Positive In Negative Situations

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1. Find the optimistic viewpoint in a negative situation.

One of the simplest but most effective ways to build a more positive outlook has in my experience been to ask more helpful questions as often as possible.

When you’re in what seems like a negative situation ask yourself questions like:

  • What is one thing that is positive or good about this situation?
  • What is one opportunity within this situation?

Process your thoughts and feelings first. Trying to force optimistic thinking when you are still in an emotional turmoil or a bit shocked usually doesn’t work well. Calm down first.

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2. Cultivate a positive environment.

Who you choose to spend your time with and the input you get from further away like the TV, the internet and magazines will have a huge effect on your outlook.

To be able to stay positive it is essential to have influences in your life that support you and lift you up instead of dragging you down.

So carefully consider what you let into your mind.

You can for example ask yourself:

  • Who are the 3 most negative people I spend time with?
  • What are the 3 of most negative sources of information I spend time on?

Consider the answers. Then think about how you can start spending less time with one of those people or information sources this week.

And how you can spend more of the time you have now freed up with one of the most positive sources or people in your life.

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3. Go slowly.

Stress builds up. Negative thoughts about just about anything can start to well up.

Slow down for a few minutes – walk, talk and eat slower – then your mind and body calms down too. It becomes easier to think things through clearly again and easier to find the optimistic and constructive perspective.

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4. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill.

It’s very easy to lose perspective, especially if you are stressed and you are going too fast.

And so a molehill can become a big and terrifying mountain in your mind.

A simple three step way to handle these situations so they don’t get out of hand is to:

  • Say stop. In your mind, shout “STOP!” or “NOPE, we are not going down that path again!” as soon as thoughts of this kind starts to spin in your head.


  • Breathe. After you have disrupted the thoughts by shouting stop sit down and just be still. Breathe with your belly and focus on just your in-breaths and out-breaths for a minute or two to calm your mind and body down.
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  • Refocus. Question your mountain building thoughts by talking to someone close to you and getting a more grounded perspective on the situation by just venting or by getting his or her input. If you don’t have anyone to talk to search for a free counseling hotline.
  • Or simply ask yourself this to widen your perspective and to chill out: Will this matter in 5 years? Or even 5 weeks?


5. Don’t let vague fears hold you back.

Sometimes you may want to take a chance in life. Start a new habit that feels unfamiliar, your own business on the side or ask someone out for a date.

A common trap when you want to do one of those things is to get lost in vague fears and about what could happen if you actually took action.

And so the mind runs wild fueled by fear and it creates nightmare scenarios and plenty of self-doubt.

Ask yourself this: honestly, what is the worst that could happen?

When you figure that out, spend a bit of time on trying to figure out what you could do if that often unlikely thing happens.

You will discover that the worst thing that could realistically happen is usually not as scary as the nightmare a fear-fueled mind could produce.

Finding clarity in this way doesn’t take much time or effort and it can help you to avoid much mind made suffering. And help you to get going, step outside of your comfort zone.

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6. Add positivity to someone’s life.

What you send out you tend to get back from the world and the people in it.

Not from everyone. And not every time.

But what you send out there matters a whole lot.

What you give them and how you treat them is what you’ll get back. And the way you treat others and how you think of them also tends to have a big effect on how you treat and think about yourself.

So give value and spread the positivity by for example:

  • Help out. Lend a hand when moving. Give a friend a ride in your car. If he or she needs information then help out by checking it up on Google or ask a friend.
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  • Just listen. Sometimes people don’t want any direct help. They just want someone to be there fully and listen as they vent for a little while.
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  • Boost the mood. Smile. Give hugs when appropriate. Play uplifting music when hanging out with a friend or suggest an inspiring movie for your movie night. Or encourage someone who has had a bad day or is going through a tough time.


7. Exercise regularly, eat and sleep well.

This is very obvious of course.

A good night’s sleep or good workout can have a big impact when your thoughts are pessimistic and you have a lot of tensions on the inside.

Be mindful about these basic habits, because they do have a huge effect on your mind.


8. Take criticism in a healthy way.

One of the most common fears is the fear of criticism. It can hold people back from doing what they want in life.

Because having negativity flowing out of someone’s mouth or email and it being about you can hurt. And being rejected can sting quite a bit.

But if you want to take action on what you deep down want then criticism is pretty much unavoidable. So the key is learning to handle it in a healthier way.

By doing so your fear of it will lessen and it will hurt less if you do get criticized.

Here are four healthy steps to take when you receive criticism:

Step 1: Don’t reply right away.

When you are angry, upset or riled up then is time to calm down a bit before you reply. Take at least a couple of deep breaths or a little time to process the message before you respond.

Step 2: Really listen to the criticism.

Try to remain open and level-headed and figure out how this message can help you.

Ask yourself: Is there one thing I can learn from this criticism? Is there something here that I may not want to hear but could help me?

Step 3: Remember the criticism isn’t always about you.

Some criticism is helpful. Some is simply attacks or someone lashing out because they are having bad day, year or job.

To lessen the sting of such criticism – often really angry or overly critical in an unconstructive way – I try to be understanding. I think to myself that this person might not be feeling so good at the moment.

Step 4: Reply or let go.

No matter the content of for example an email I try to keep my reply level-headed and kind. I may add a question or two to get more specific feedback that is helpful.

And if they don’t reply or I have simply gotten a nasty attack then it is time to delete it and to let that situation go.

9. If something still gets under your skin then know what to do.

Sometimes something can still get under your skin and hurt you. Even if you use the steps above.

Two things can help with that challenge:

  • Let it out. Just letting that issue out into the light talking it over with someone close can be very helpful to see it for what it actually is. And to find a healthier perspective on the situation.



10. Start your day in a positive way.

How you start your day usually sets the tone for the rest of your day.

So be careful about how you spend your mornings.

If you get going at full speed, lost in future troubles in your mind then the stress, perceived loss of power of over your life and negative thoughts will ramp up quickly.

If you on the other hand start your day by moving slowly, by having an uplifting conversation with your family or friend or you spend some time with reading or listening to inspiring and helpful articles or podcasts over breakfast it can make a big difference for how your whole day will go.


11. Mindfully move through your day.

When you spend your time in the present moment then it becomes so much easier to access positive emotions and to stay practical about what you can actually do about something in your life.

When you get lost in the past or future like so many of us have spent a lot of time on doing then worries very easily become bigger. And failures and mistakes from the past being replayed over and over in your mind drag you down into pessimism.

By moving slowly through your morning and hopefully through much of the rest of your day it becomes easier to mindfully stay in the moment you are in.

Another simple way to reconnect with the moment you are in and to put your full attention there again is to focus just on what is going on around you right now for a minute or two with all your senses.

See it. Hear it. Smell it. Feel the sun, rain or cold wind on your skin. Be present.

It might sound like a small and insignificant thing to do. But this simplifying reconnection with the moment can have a very positive effect on the rest of your day.

-Hendrik Edberg


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Why Detoxing Your Body Is Vital


First, let’s explain toxins. Toxins can come from contaminants in food and water, junk food, stress, smog, vehicle emissions, airborne fungal spores, pesticides, and pollution.

We’re exposed to them daily. Add alcohol, smoking, secondhand smoke and more exposure to cell phones and computers and you’re in Toxic City, which is why I prefer being around nature.

It’s healthy and healing. In fact, I get serious nature withdrawals if I don’t see trees or greenery.

Maybe my parents growing up on a farm in Italy is in my DNA. I don’t know, but I love nature.


Speaking of, when um, nature calls, it also eliminate toxins. But your liver and kidney need to work overtime when there are too many toxins in your body.

If you need reminding, alcohol is a major toxin as bad as soda. Yes, that includes diet soda.

I’ve never been into drinking alcohol and quit drinking diet soda (and coffee) in 2005. Amazing difference in how I feel.

Only thing I drink is alkaline water. And I don’t need coffee to wake up. I wake up naturally with energy. Imagine that.


Healthy drinking is none at all or 1 or 2 glasses of red wine with dinner. More than that and you risk brain damage, addiction, stroke, blurred vision, slurred speech, bleeding throat, breathing difficulties, stomach ulcers, liver disease, liver failure, intestinal cancer, intestinal ulcers, impotence for men, infertility for women and osteoporosis.


Even people who don’t drink can get something called “Fatty Liver Disease” when inadvertently exposed to external toxins. Pharmaceutical medications and over-the-counter medications are also toxic.


Remember, your kidneys and liver were created to naturally help your body detox. Your body is a natural healer.

But when it encounters too many man-made toxins, you could end up with cirrhosis or kidney disease. Help flush them out with daily exercise.


SWEATING through exercise, sauna, steam is great. Taking a hot bath with Epsom salt twice a week helps too.  My favorite is Dr. Teal’s lavender bubble bath epsom salt. Smells nice and bubbles!

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You want to avoid sugar as much as you can. Again, avoid soda at all costs.

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You also want to avoid foods with refined flour, (breads, rice),  junk food (yes, cakes and cookies), processed starchy (crackers), fast food, coffee, soft drinks, anything with high fructose or artificial sweeteners, saturated and trans fats, dairy and animal products.


You’re thinking OMG, nothing is left. Yes, there is…


What remains is dark green vegetables and you can toss olive oil with garlic in a pan and make string beans, Brussel sprouts, spinach, mushrooms or any veggie taste delicious.

Add a pinch of sea salt and you have a nice big heaping serving of deliciousness.


Photo above has iceberg lettuce. It’s worth noting you want to go for DARK, LEAFY, GREEN LETTUCE. That one has nutrients, not white iceberg.

Wild caught salmon and fish high in Omega 3 are healthy and real easy to cook too.


Healthy food keeps you satisfied and feeling good. No cravings. No anxiety. No depression. Junk food makes you whine about aches, pains, anxiety and cravings.



Tip: Stock your pantry and refrigerator with healthy foods, water and snacks.


Whenever I blog about favorite brands they fly off shelves and I regret it.

So, I reluctantly tell you I’m a big fan of Veggie Straws and Veggie Stix with Sea Salt. They’re so cute and look like French fries.

Hollow inside, so dip (I use Hummus) goes all the way through; clever design. Check them out at:

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Again, drink lots of alkaline water daily.  You can search how much water you should drink daily based on your height, weight and activity level. I highly recommend alkaline water.

I have two brands I rave about. Carlsbad Alkaline Water on west coast and Essentia on east coast.

Maria Dorfner

Dr. Edward Group recommends the following in terms of detoxing through food:

“When it comes to detoxing your body, there are many techniques you can follow and supplements you can take. One plan, in particular, is to eat detoxifying foods. Here is a list of 10 detox foods that are a great addition to anyone’s diet.”


10 Foods To Detox Your Body:

1. Fruit

Fruit is high in liquid-content which helps the body wash out toxins.[1]

Fruit is also easy to digest and is high in antioxidants, nutrients, fiber, and important vitamins.


2. Green Foods

Fill your refrigerator with blue-green algae, barley, wheatgrass, kale, spinach, spirulina, alfalfa, chard, arugula, and other organic leafy greens to give your digestive tract a detoxifying boost of chlorophyll.[2]

Chlorophyll rids the body of harmful environmental toxins from toxic metals, herbicides, cleaning products, and pesticides.[3]

They also aid the liver in detoxification.


3. Lemons, Oranges, and Limes

Citrus fruit aids the body by flushing out toxins and jump-starting the digestive tract with enzymatic processes.[4]

Lemon juice supports the liver and kidneys in their cleansing processes.[5]

To increase detoxification, start each morning with a warm glass of lemon water.

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4. Garlic

Garlic is one of the best detoxing foods out there. It stimulates the liver into producing detoxification enzymes that filter toxic residues from the digestive system.[6] I recommend adding sliced or cooked garlic to a suitable dish, as it will help any detox diet.


5. Broccoli Sprouts

Extremely high in antioxidants, the ability for broccoli sprouts to stimulate detoxification enzymes at the cellular level is unparalleled.[7]

The sprouts are even better than the fully-grown vegetable.


6. Green Tea

Packed with antioxidants, green tea washes toxins from the system via its liquid content.

It also contains a special type of antioxidant called catechins, which are known to increase liver function.[8]


7. Mung Beans

The mighty mung bean has been used by Ayurvedic doctors for thousands of years. It is incredibly easy to digest and absorbs toxic residue from the intestinal walls.[9]


8. Raw Vegetables

Whether juiced or eaten raw, onions, carrots, artichokes, asparagus, broccoli, cabbage, kale, brussels sprouts, cauliflower, garlic, beet, turmeric, and oregano provide a great foundation for a healthy diet.

The combination of these foods will help your liver purge toxins during the cleansing process.

They are also high in naturally occurring sulfur and glutathione—sulfur helps the liver detoxify harmful chemicals.[910,11]


9. Seeds and Nuts

Incorporate more easily digestible seeds and nuts into your diet. Flax seed, pumpkin seeds, almonds, walnuts, hemp seeds, sesame seeds, chia seeds, Siberian cedar nuts, and sunflower seeds are all excellent options.

While detoxing, avoid nut butter with added sugar.


10. Omega-3 Oils

Use hemp, avocado, olive, or flaxseed oil while detoxing to help lubricate the intestinal walls. This allows toxins to be absorbed by the oil and eliminated by the body.[8

There is no way to completely avoid toxins. There are simply too many sources, as previously mentioned, such as contaminants in food and water, junk food, stress, smog, secondhand smoke, vehicle emissions, airborne fungal spores, pesticides, and pollution.

Maintaining a diet high in detox foods is one of the best ways to maintain overall health.

What are your favorite detox foods? We’d love to hear your thoughts.

Remember, even if Covid-19 vanishes, you will be ready if something else pops up out of nowhere.


Be proactive about your own health.

Dr. Group

by Guest Author, Dr. Edward Group DC, NP, DACBN, DCBCN, DABFM, Global Healing Center

The views and nutritional advice expressed by Global Healing Center are not intended to be a substitute for conventional medical service. If you have a severe medical condition or health concern, always see your physician.


Reduce Your Risk of Lyme Disease

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  1. Cover exposed skin with light clothing

  2. Use insect repellent with 20% or more of Deet.

  3. Do a check of ticks after being outdoors.


  1. A bullseye rash, but not everyone gets the rash

  2. Fever, chills

  3. Fatigue

  4. Muscle or joint aches






CG: Dr. Alan Taege /Cleveland Clinic “You can protect yourself. Use the insect repellent, particularly those with DEET, D-E-E-T, when you go out to work in your yard, camping, hiking, whatever you’re doing, put it on, because it can be very effective.” [:16]



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CG: Dr. Alan Taege /Cleveland Clinic “When you come in from any of those activities where you’ve exposed yourself to ticks you should do a tick check to try to be sure that you haven’t collected any of the little creatures on your body.” [:12]




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Vitamins You Need Now To Stay Healthy

The following is a good listen if you want to ensure you will either prevent or be one of the mild cases if you should get Covid-19.


Interviewer, Alex J. Aguiar is a Four time Emmy award winning entertainment producer, editor and reporter. His production company, AJA Creative Media produces his podcastpodcast “Pod with Me” a lifestyle show where listeners can learn from guest real life stories, infused with positive energy, laughter and fun. Today, he talks about C-19.

The podcast is available in over twenty platforms inc. the Apple and Google Podcast APP.
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Firstly, get consistent sleep. If you have problems falling asleep 1 mg. of melatonin.

Stay hydrated beginning with when you first wake up in the morning.

Tylenol is damaging to your liver. Only take it if a fever reaches 103 degrees.

Make sure you get Vitamins D, C, zinc, magnesium, A and K2

Empower yourself by keeping your immune system strong at all times.



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Stay Hydrated. Start drinking water first thing in the morning. Avoid soda and soft drinks.

Exercise Daily. Stretch. Move even if indoors.


Get at least 10 minutes of natural sunshine a few times a week.



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Set aside daily quiet time. No TV. No noise. Quiet your mind. Meditate. It’s a good time to give gratitude.

Stay healthy! Stay safe!


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Study: Stress Linked to AutoImmune Disorders

We know that a lot of stress can impact our thoughts and mood. But can too much stress actually make us more likely to develop autoimmune disorders?

A recent study suggests that it can.

The study looked at data from a registry of 106,464 people. Researchers found those who were diagnosed with stress-related disorders were more likely to experience problems with their immune systems and the development of autoimmune disorders.

Scott Bea, PsyD, of Cleveland Clinic did not take part in the study, but said experts have known for a while that what happens in our minds impacts our bodies from head to toe.


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““Our minds and our bodies are connected. “Our emotions and what happens in our body are connected – we’ve known that for a long time and this is another study that shows the evidence of that.””

Dr. Bea says we have a response to stress that initially causes alarm, then discomfort, followed by exhaustion. He says if we can develop good active coping responses early on, it can help provide a buffer from some of that stress reactivity.


According to Dr. Bea, moving our bodies, socializing and setting activity schedules are all things that can help us cope with our stress and how our body reacts to it.

He says taking care of our emotional well-being, much like the way we concern ourselves with our physical well-being, can go a long way towards improved overall health. “


“We’’re a culture that looks at physical exercise very seriously – we want people to move their bodies, go to the gym, engage in cardiovascular exercise, resistance training. – We don’’t think about emotional exercises as much. We really should be keeping our emotions and our coping mechanisms tuned up.””


Add SLEEP to the circle, as your body needs at least 9 hours of sleep each night to recover.

Since SOCIALIZATION has been hindered by Covid-19, be creative in ways to keep in touch with family, friends and colleagues during this time.

Social media, Zoom, Facetime, old-fashioned letter writing and phone calls are still great ways to check-in with people during this time.

Dr. Bea recommends learning skills to keep our minds in the present. He said mindfulness is something even children can learn at a young age. “


“I really encourage people to adopt a different relationship with their thoughts by learning a practice of mindfulness and noticing thoughts as just thoughts – as something that occurs, but passes by you, rather than getting stuck on thoughts. This is a really great mechanism to reduce stress reactivity.””


Complete results of the study can be found in JAMA.






The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale

The Brain Mechanic by Spencer Lord

Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Books by John Assaraf

Super Body, Super Brain by Michael Gonzalez-Wallace

Books by Deepak Chopra

Books by Dr. Dean Ornish

Books by Dr. Daniel Amen

Books by Mark Hyman, MD

Real Food Heals by Seamus Mullens

Healthy Within by yours truly (Maria Dorfner)


Please feel free to recommend additional reading material in comments. 



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Think and Grow Healthy by Maria Dorfner

NewsMD: What's Hot in Health

nap22Napolean Hill‘s list to make you rich in his classic book, “Think and Grow Rich” also relates to health, your true wealth.

Virgil first said, “Health is Wealth,” so it’s been known since the beginning of time.


1.   Positive Mental Attitude –  Healthy change starts in your mind.  Visualize your success. Close your mind when you awake and think, “THIS is the FIRST day of my life.”

Release everything in the past. It’s gone. Do not think of tomorrow. That’s what causes anxiety –the unknown.

We have a lot of unknown now, but we’ve always had it.

Look at this way. Even if you knew what would happen tomorrow –things you can’t control like weather, other people’s behavior, like a drunk driver on the road or any other number of events, such as an unforeseen accident, death or divorce can change that in a nanosecond. You can’t predict tomorrow.

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WTF Life vs. WFH Life

selfcareWTF is when you work in an office each day.  You waste time getting there. You waste time looking a certain way to fit in with the office culture. You waste time making small talk with the same people.  Asking, “How was your weekend?” is getting old. Your feet  hurt. Your back hurts. You are tired. And you are stressed knowing you have to do it all over again the next day.

WFH is an acronym for Work From Home. #WFH began trending on social media after The Corona Virus Task Force issued a Stay At Home or Shelter In Place or Work From Home order to everyone to help avoid its spread.

Some people have always worked remotely so it’s nothing new. Others freaked out.

There’s zero to freak out about. Remain CALM. Working from home is better for you.

I’ve been working remotely for decades, so I can share why it works, and how and why it’s easy it to stay healthier than those in an office. Contrary to popular belief, there are less distractions and you seriously get more done without sacrificing your health or life.

Occasionally, I take on an assignment that requires me to be in a physical office. Those times reinforce they are a colossal waste of money and space, not to mention people’s time. If you can do something using a computer or phone in 2020, why waste a minimum of four hours getting to and from an office. Makes no sense.

Ever wonder why a lot of business leaders boast about deals being made on the golf course? It’s because people are relaxed there. Good luck making a deal on a crowded B-Train from Brooklyn to NYC or any place you are squished like a sardine.

When you work in an office your stress begins upon waking up.  Tired. Again.

insomnia27WTF.  You’re already in a bad mood because you need more sleep, but know you won’t get it. When you set alarm knowing you need to get to a bus, plane, train or bus it places your body immediately goes into fight or flight mode, which right off the bat releases Cortisol, the stress hormone. Your fat cells are already gearing up to preserve them since they think you’re in danger. You are in danger. You’re in danger of illness from chronic stress.

vs. WORK FROM HOME WELLNESS sleeping11WFH. When you set your alarm to wake from home you wake up smiling. There’s no rush. In fact, if you’re wise you start to give Gratitude and stay in bed a little longer giving thanks and praise for blessings. Then, you can stretch. Your body is relaxed already releasing feel good Endorphins and Oxytocin to start your day off healthy. It’s proven fat cells shrink when you’re well-rested. You have time to Meditate. You do. You glance over at your To Do list written the night before knowing you’ll tackle it. No stress.

insomnia45WTF. WTF. You need caffeine and are the walking dead and quite cranky until you get your first cup of coffee. Coffee dehydrates you and has no health benefits.
Don’t believe the hype.


WFH. You don’t need coffee. You start your day with hot water and lemon, which hydrates you, cleanses and activates your metabolism for the rest of the day.  You wake up alert, not groggy when you need a cup of coffee. That tells you right there which is better for you.

WTF. You bring your gym bag to work because you plan to go to the gym afterwards. By the end of the day all you want is to get home in your pajamas with cookies and a tall glass of milk. Your favorite part of the day will be when you change into your pajamas. Think about that. It’s a real WTF.


exercise2WFH. You start your day with exercise which gets your brain and body energized to start the work day. Nothing is rushed in the work from home life. You’re in the zone. Your favorite part of the day is when you closed that deal, wrote that script or learned something new.  Your favorite part of the day is no longer the end of it.

sleep2WTF. You will not get enough sleep because by the time you get home, run errands, eat something, try to relax it’s way past your bedtime. This sleep deprivation will be chronic and slowly erode your health. You will begin to feel aches and pains and be moody and quite unpleasant to be around. You will snap at people when you get home, so your relationships will suffer. You just got home from work, so can’t be expected to do anything. You want to be left alone. If you have a spouse or children or pet –who want or need your attention –it’s a recipe for disaster.


WFH. The sleep you’ve been getting shows in your calm demeanor, and you feel great. No aches or pains and your skin looks better and you’re even keeled. No bad moods. People will comment you look younger than your age. You have time in between calls to toss in laundry and do a bit of cleaning or walk your dog or hug your spouse.

WTF. You are always hungry while at the office. The Gremlins are alive and well because you’re not getting enough sleep and you’re stressed. You feel like there aren’t enough snacks to keep you going until you can get out of that office.


WFH. You eat healthier because you’ve more time to prepare meals and you have time to make better choices when grocery shopping. You realize you feel better when you eat better.


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WTF. No privacy. You have to listen to every conversation in the office. If someone sneezes the droplets land on your desk. If someone brings in smelly food or wears awful perfume –you’re right there having to soak it all in. It’s disgusting. You’re sick of the small talk, clicks and reminder of why you hated high school. Every day you have to convince yourself it’s not so bad as you watch the clock.

WFH. The Do Not Disturb sign is alive and well. Your office is your sanctuary. You don’t have to listen to co-workers gossiping, talking on the phone or kissing up to the boss. No worries about sexual harassment or any other nonsense. You can focus, get your work done and get results.

So, relax. Working from home is amazing. Make sure you don’t have a micromanager for a boss. You want a leader. Here’s the difference.

A leader lets you all know the vision and goals and then delegates tasks. A leader trusts you to get things done. They get out of the way. They ask you to call, email or text (whatever their preference is) them if you need them. These leaders inspire and motivate people with their positivity. Employees love working for this person and go the extra mile for them. They trust you’ll let them know if you need assistance.

A micromanager is the equivalent of a little kid tugging at your shirt while you’re trying to get work done. These people aren’t qualified for whatever position they are in, so they overcompensate for insecurities by brow beating other people. You can spot them because they send questions like, “Where are we at with …?” or ask if you’ve done what they’ve asked you to do right after asking you to do it. When they say people don’t leave jobs, they leave bosses –this is that boss. They have a negative affect on the morale of employees, productivity and bottom line.

WTF. You can’t always leave your desk when you’re feeling anxious.

WFH. You can go for a walk, take a hot shower, make a cup of green tea, call a friend, stretch, open your refrigerator to grab a snack (stock up on water and Better For You snacks when you work from home and healthy foods you can pick on. I blog a lot about those. You can search past articles. Some of my favorites are Veggie Stix, wheat thins, blueberries, cherries, almonds, walnuts, PeaTos makes Cheetos made from peas —and good ol’ chocolate.

How much money would a company save if they allowed employees to work from home? Can things be done differently?  Why do people really need to be inside a particular office or building? Can what’s being done in there be done remotely and end up costing less? Can the world prioritize health and family time? Things to think about the next two weeks.

Maybe there’s a healthier way long-term and not just for two weeks.

For now, enjoy Working From Home.  Stay healthy!



WOMEN’S HEALTH: Viva Eve: Experts in Fibroids

How VIVA EVE helped other women:

Read stories from women who turned to VIVA EVE for help with fibroids.  Success Stories

Nehal Farouky, Co-Founder and President, VIVA EVE (right)

Nehal Farouky, Co-founder and President of VIVA EVE was recently interviewed by Maria Dorfner on BOLDTV Health about what sets VIVA EVE apart from other fibroid clinics.

“At our practice, we’ve designed a truly inclusive care process that provides patients with empathy, support, education, and a wide range of treatment options,” says Nehal. “Our commitment to deliver quality in everything we do is reflected not only during the patient’s time with their doctor, but in all areas of our patient experience.”

Fibroids are abnormal uterine growths that develop in more than half of the female population in the U.S. by age 50. Mild fibroid symptoms can give way to more serious medical conditions. While they’re rarely life-threatening, fibroids can make life uncomfortable to say the least, causing:

  • Heavy, prolonged or painful periods with or without clotting.

  • Moderate to severe menstrual cramps.

  • Irregular monthly bleeding or spotting, bleeding between periods, unpredictable menstrual cycles.

  • Pain during sex and loss of libido.

  • Difficulty conceiving or infertility.

  • Pelvic pressure; distended and bloated abdomen.

  • Weak bladder control or frequent urination because of bladder pressure.

  • Anemia (low blood count) that can lead to a lack of energy and fatigue.

  • Lower back pain and pain in the back of the legs.

  • Constipation.

Women are most susceptible to getting uterine fibroids when they are of childbearing age. Unfortunately, research indicates that on average, women wait 3.5 years before seeking help. The scope of this unspoken problem was what inspired the practice to integrate a personable, warm, comforting ethos.

VIVA EVE’s empathic approach to patient care can be felt within their office space. From waiting room to consultation rooms, patients are treated to a spa-like atmosphere with thoughtful, modern touches including spacious bathrooms with bidets, fruit-infused water and free phone charging stations.

“When we originally set up our practice, our first goal was to design a space that patients enjoy being in,” says Nehal. “We know that going to an OB/GYN isn’t the most fun activity, so we did what we could to alleviate that stress.”

In addition to the office’s pleasant amenities, patients are examined in state-of-the-art consultation rooms. Tablets and medical touch screens are used to educate patients and explain different procedures. Certain diagnostic testing is also done in-office, such as sonograms, bloodwork, biopsies, and pap smears.

Apart from the amenities offered at their facility, VIVA EVE’s team of fibroid experts work together to give patients more choices than most standard OB/GYN offices. They offer both surgical and nonsurgical treatment options so that each woman can choose the right treatment according to her needs.

“Our unique combination of doctors from different specialties allows us to provide each patient with an individualized treatment plan that suits their needs. It’s hard for other clinics to have the same perspective as a group of experts dedicated to treating fibroids.”

Throughout the treatment process, patient care is coordinated, tracked and managed by VIVA EVE’s patient care team. This specially trained team onboards patients and remains closely involved in moving the patient along the funnel to success.

“Our patient care representatives are truly there to assist patients in any way possible,” says Nehal. “They will check to find out the insurance details of prospective patients, address questions and concerns, and touch base with patients between visits.”

Currently, VIVA EVE has one location in Forest Hills, Queens – but expansion is on the horizon, with plans to move to Manhattan some time this year.

“Our mission is to provide as many women as we can with the support and care they need to regain control of their lives,” says Nehal. “By adding a location in Manhattan, we hope to provide women across the tri-state area with greater access to fibroid treatment.”

By putting patients first, VIVA EVE has become renowned for the level of care they offer – with no plans to slow down any time soon.

Nehal Farouky, Co-Founder and President, VIVA EVE

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Coping with Grief

Coping with Grief: How to Handle Your Emotions

Traumatic events are a shock to the mind and body, and lead to a variety of emotions.

Coping with grief takes time, help from others, and the knowledge that grieving isn’t easy.

Medically reviewed by Lindsey Marcellin, MD, MPH

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Grief is an emotion that takes time to deal with, but you can get through it and eventually move on. Grieving is a healthy response to tragedy, loss, and sadness, and it’s important to allow yourself time to process your loss.

Coping With Grief: The Range of Emotions

Grief doesn’t just happen after someone dies.

Any traumatic event, major life change, or significant loss — a rape, a divorce, even major financial losses — can cause grief. Throughout the grieving process, you may find yourself feeling:

Coping With Grief: Accepting It

“Don’t try to run away from it; rather, face it head on,” advises Sally R. Connolly, a social worker and therapist at the Couples Clinic of Louisville in Louisville, Ky. In more than 30 years of practice, Connolly has helped many individuals and couples deal with grief and various traumatic events.

“Acknowledge that something traumatic has happened and that it has had a profound effect on you,” Connolly advises. Give yourself time to grieve, but seek help when you need it.

Coping With Grief: Finding Help

You may want some time alone to process your thoughts and struggle with your grief, but it’s important to recognize when you need help from others.

“You might need more help if you find that, after some time, you are not able to get back to normal activities, you have trouble sleeping or eating, or have thoughts and feelings that interfere with everyday life,” says Connolly.

A grief counselor or other therapist may be able to help you cope with grief, and finally start to move past it. Getting your grief out in the open is an important first step.

“Talk about it with someone — a friend, family, a support group. Support groups can be wonderful,” Connolly says. There, you can relate to other people who understand your situation, and you can get advice on what helped them through their grief.

Of course, expressing your emotions doesn’t have to be done out loud. “Write about it,” suggests Connolly. Rather than allowing thoughts to swirl in your head, put them down on paper. This is a great way of getting out your feelings if you are shy or embarrassed about sharing them with another person.

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Coping With Grief: Getting Closure

Closure is also an important part of coping with grief and may help you move through the grieving process.

“Depending on the event, developing a ritual to say farewell may be helpful. We have funerals when someone dies and they are a healthy step on the road to acceptance. Rituals can be helpful for other traumas as well,” Connolly says.

Coping With Grief: When Will I Feel Better?

There is no set timeline for grieving. And unfortunately, you may never completely get over your loss. But your loss shouldn’t keep you from enjoying life, even with occasional periods of sadness.

“Let yourself grieve as long as you need to. You do have to resume normal life, but know that it’s going to take a while,” says Connolly.

Look for small signs that you’re coping with grief and getting past it.

“Happy times signal that you’re progressing,” she says. When you realize that you aren’t always dwelling on the sadness or don’t think about it as frequently as you once did,”

If you deprive yourself of the grieving process, you may find that you have more difficulty accepting what has happened or that unresolved feelings and issue

Allow yourself to feel sad and even selfish; eventually you’ll find yourself feeling better a little bit at a time. Even though part of you may always feel sad about your loss, you’ll find yourself happy and laughing again one day.


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According to the American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP), emotionally healthy individuals have a capacity to process and express their emotional experiences in a productive way that reduces stress.Many life transitions, both positive and negative, can produce a sense of loss, sadness and anger. Acknowledging sadness and seeking support through difficult times can be critical to stress management and physical health.

Emotional Health

Experts at the American Academy of Family Physicians note that emotional health is defined by how people handle difficult emotions.

For example, many of life’s challenges, such as the loss of a job or death of a family member, can leave us with a marked sense of sadness and even anger.

Doctors note that the expression of these feelings is critical to maintaining stability both physically and emotionally.

When we feel sad it important to express those feelings to others in appropriate ways or use activities such as meditation or exercise to release the built-up stress.

MIND BODY Connection

According to the American Academy of Family Physicians, our bodies react to the way we feel. If we are sad or stressed about a situation, our bodies might respond with a variety of physical systems, such as headaches, difficulty sleeping, and weight loss or weight gain.

When we monitor our emotions and identify how we feel, we can choose effective tools to care for our health. When people do not acknowledge and work through emotions such as sadness, they can often develop unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as overeating or substance abuse to avoid the difficult feelings or to find a sense of comfort.

Coping with Sadness

Dr. Edward T. Creagan of the Mayo Clinic suggests that people take particular care of their health in the aftermath of a sad or upsetting event.

Eating a healthy diet, maintaining a healthy sleep schedule, and talking to trusted friends or a counselor are all helpful tools for coping with sadness. When people use these methods for self-care, they often find that the period of sadness passes within a reasonable amount of time.

Sadness and Depression

When sadness is not expressed or processed in healthy ways, it often can lead to depression. The American Academy of Family Physicians notes that this is particularly common among people who use alcohol or drugs to cope with sad feelings.

Many of these substances depress the central nervous system and leave the individual feeling increasingly more depressed.

People having a particularly difficult time with persistent feelings of sadness should consider consulting a medical professional or therapist for additional support.

Treatment for Emotional Issues

People who struggle with healthy management of emotions often find that they benefit from counseling or support groups. Doctors at the American Academy of Family Physicians note that sadness, when not processed and communicated, can lead to destructive emotional patterns, such as anger management issues.

By working with professional counselors or peer support groups, people can learn to identify how they feel and how to cope in healthy ways.




Is Crying Healthy?

When emotions overtake you, crying can be a healthy emotional release. But not all environments are conducive to alleviating sadness or expressing relief.

Medically reviewed by Pat F. Bass III, MD, MPH

The notion that big boys or big girls don’t cry is a persistent idea fed by popular sayings, but psychologists and researchers say that it’s just not so.

Shedding tears can be a huge and very healthy emotional release, particularly if you are experiencing deep pain, sadness, anger, or stress.

One study analyzed 140 years of popular articles about crying and found that more than 9 in 10 found tears to be a good way to release pent-up feelings.

An international sample of men and women from 30 countries found that most reported feeling relief after a good cry.

And about 70 percent of therapists say they believe crying is good for their patients.

Crying as Catharsis

The main benefit of crying is catharsis, or a purging or purification of your feelings through emotional release. When you cry, you can let go of the tension and sadness and other emotions that have been causing you pain.

In many ways, crying serves as a safety valve that allows you to blow off emotions that have built up too much pressure inside you.

It’s been difficult for researchers to figure out how this works. When tears are induced in a laboratory setting — for example, having subjects watch a sad movie — more often than not the participants report that they feel worse rather than better.

Despite this, people consistently report that a good cry makes them feel better. One recent study reviewing more than 3,000 detailed reports of recent crying episodes found that most people reported an improvement in their mood afterward.

Another study of 196 Dutch women found that nearly 9 in 10 said they felt better after crying.

Another benefit of crying is that it can bring people closer. An Israeli researcher studying the evolutionary aspects of crying has speculated that shedding tears communicates vulnerability to others, since the tears blur your vision and leaves you defenseless.

A person who cares for you while you are in this weakened state can grow closer to you, and the bond between the two of you may grow stronger.

Have a Healthy Cry

Research has found that for crying to improve emotional health, certain conditions need to be met:

  • You should have a shoulder to cry on. People who receive social support while crying report more cathartic release than people who cry alone. Find a friend or loved one you trust.
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  • You should cry after you’ve solved the problem. People feel better when they cry about a problem that’s already been resolved. If you cry before you’ve dealt with the situation that’s making you feel like crying, you are likely to receive no benefit or actually make yourself feel worse rather than better.
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  • You need to make sure you’re crying in an appropriate place. People who experience shame or embarrassment while they cry are less likely to report an improvement of their mood. If you’re going to feel bad about crying in a public place or in front of certain people, you need to hold back your tears and go somewhere else.grief2
  • Crying likely won’t help you if you are living with a mood disorder. People who live with clinical depression or anxiety disorders are less likely to feel better after they have a good cry. If you find yourself feeling worse after crying, you should see a doctor or therapist to see if you have a mood disorder.
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But if you can’t stop the tears from falling, go ahead and let it all out — the odds are you’ll feel better afterward.


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