Happiness and Health are like fraternal twins.
They are not identical, but they’re born at the same time.
They are interchangeable. If you feel healthy you feel happy.
If you feel happy, you’re more likely to feel healthy.
So what’s the key to happiness? I can tell you that if you think it’s a destination as in, “I will be happy when I retire and move to Florida” or “I’ll be happy when I’m on vacation next week” –you will not be happy.
KEY #1: HAPPINESS IS WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW. If you can be happy living in one room, you’ll be happy living in twenty. If you’re not happy in one room, that will not change once the novelty of the twenty rooms wears off.
KEY #2: FIND HUMOR IN TENSE SITUATIONS. Whenever you can’t control a situation, control how you react to it, which is essentially to not react to it. Respond with calmness, kindness, understanding, compassion or humor whenever you can.
KEY #3: DON’T BE TENSE UNLESS YOUR HOUSE IS ON FIRE. Even then, it’s the calm person more likely to get out safe.
KEY 4: HAVE AT LEAST 1 FRIEND YOU TRUST 10o%.
This isn’t someone who lies, betrays, cheats, gossips or ignores. This is the non-judgmental son you can text: I tossed the garbage out in my robe and now I’m locked out at 3 a.m. friend who laughs first and then helps you figure out what to do next. Ok, maybe you need 3 friends like this.
KEY 5: SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE. Refer back to #4. These are people who know life is rarely a straight line. The journey is filled with hills and valleys. Positive people genuinely find the best in every situation and see the best in everyone. They are slow to judge others and they don’t gossip because the other person isn’t there to present their side, and if you’re over the age of nine you know there is another side.
KEY #6: MAKE HEALTHY CHOICES. Buy healthy, stock up on healthy food and water, walk daily, drink lots of water, get enough sleep and fresh air and you will feel better. Replace bad comfort foods with healthier ones. Remember perfect is the evil of good. Educate yourself on what is nutritious. There is a search button on this blog where you can type in nutrition or food to pull up prior blogs on that.
KEY7: KNOW THAT NO ONE FEELS HAPPY ALL THE TIME. Accept the ebb and flow as natural. You’re human and will feel different emotions each day. You manage your state of mind by managing all the above, so that your dominant state is one of calmness and contentment. Think of a pleasant thought right now. Smile to yourself. Hold that thought. Your brain just registered that you are happy. You’re the only one who owns your Happiness keys. Use all your senses to pick up on things to be happy and grateful for: birds chirping, quiet, music, time to be reading this blog, eyesight to be reading this.
Tony Robbins says, “Change your EXPECTATIONS for yourself or others to APPRECIATION.” Love that.